Zoleka’s story from abuse and neglect to victory and restoration

This week’s podcast is a sit down with Zoleka Hatitongwe. She is the director of Upsurge which is an accommodation and volunteer service based in Cape Town. You can find the website here and the facebook page here. She is also the brains behind Phenomenal Women Africa. She shares her story from being in an abusive relationship,…

Lara’s story and Financial Abuse

Hello, Enchanted Fam. I just finished reading the Silent Wife by Kerry Fisher. It’s a thriller based on two-second wives to Italian Brothers. I would recommend this book to anyone who likes suspense as it is a book filled with unexpected twists and turns. However, for this post, we will focus on Lara who is…

Slow Fade

The change from perfect to abuse is very slow and gradual the person going through it may not realize or they could be in denial or they could be holding on to the memory of Mr/Miss perfect waiting for them to reappear.

How relationships turn abusive

The change from perfect to abuse is very slow and gradual the person going through it may not realize or they could be in denial or they could be holding on to the memory of Mr/Miss perfect waiting for them to reappear.

Quiz time: Is it love or control?

Love can be confusing and sometimes you know someone loves you but you have this nagging feeling that something is not right but you cannot put your finger on it. Or perhaps you have an idea that something your partner is doing is wrong but you need confirmation then take this quiz and find out……

14 years of abuse

I suffered for 14 years of emotional and financial abuse from my ex-partner. We met through walking past each other and both looked back at each other and we started talking. Things at first were good, to begin with. We had our first child together after a couple of years together. My family said from…

Enchanted by a illusion

A true story from an anonymous subscriber I never understood why someone would stay in an abusive relationship; it made no sense to me. I knew about abuse, had watched movies about it and read books on it. I would sit there and wonder why and how anyone could stay in a relationship that was…

Cycle of Abuse

What makes an imperfect relationship different from an abusive one is this cycle of abuse.
The cycle of abuse refers to the continuous and repetition of harmful acts of violence. Think of it as a cycle of a bicycle that keeps on going when it’s peddled. It is a pattern that will happen many times in a relationship.
The image is a summary of the traits of an abusive relationship